People ARE odd. It's always weird to see what bothers some people over others. We also planned on having ours kid-free, and some people were really offended. Not the people with the kids though, others got offended on their behalf! It thankfully ended up being a non-issue, as their were only 3 couples/people on our list with kids under teenhood and none of them were able to make it anyhow. That was also the benefit of having so many people coming from out of town, we were able to pare down our guest list hugely by being like "oh, you can't travel the week before Christmas? ohhhhh....well, shucks." From the getgo we just consistently let people know our budget was tiny and we simply could not accomodate everyone's needs. If they complained, I asked them straight out if they'd pay for the extra, and only once did someone go "well, yes, actually" - my mum was planning on paying for a friend to come out who I hadn't originally planned on inviting, but she ended up not being able to make it anyhow, so hah. Have you had any parents asking for their friends to be on the guest list? That was a big one with my side, my dad is weird that way. He wanted to invite people I didn't even know, because it's somehow an honour to invite someone to your daughters wedding. Uh, excuse you, have your own wedding and invite who ever you want! My mum kept asking that I invite this one friend of hers who I've known since childhood and never liked very much and I was having none of that. This friend once tried to set me up with some dental student, very shortly after I started dating G. She also offered to buy me a fancy lipstick once like one she had, which was very pricy and came direct from France. She had by then known me about 14 years, and should have known I didn't/don't wear lipstick, ever! Oh god I've totally hijacked my own comment with ranting. Ah, it feels good to get it off my chest though. 3 months later and I still get annoyed by pre-wedding drama! Although to be honest, as frustrating as a lot of it was, I would read posts on OBB's ranting forum and come away from it like, wow, my family is dysfunctional but at least they aren't batshit insane!
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Date: 2012-03-26 04:25 am (UTC)Oh god I've totally hijacked my own comment with ranting. Ah, it feels good to get it off my chest though. 3 months later and I still get annoyed by pre-wedding drama! Although to be honest, as frustrating as a lot of it was, I would read posts on OBB's ranting forum and come away from it like, wow, my family is dysfunctional but at least they aren't batshit insane!