Jan. 4th, 2009

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I had a rather impromptu gathering/mini-party of sorts last night with Drew, Josh, Paul, Nat, and Brett. It was awesome! So much fun. We played Wii Sports and Guitar Hero and watched Duck Tales. Seriously good good good good times. :)

I love all my friends, and now that it's the New Year, "out with the old, in with the new" has never applied so well. I've recently been dumped by a friend of many years and you know what? It was quite the eye-opener. I've been trying for much too long to try and keep together a friendship that was completely one-sided and falling apart at the seams, and for what? Her dumping me made me realize how toxic the friendship had become and toxic friendships are NOT GOOD. Not to mention that I've watched her treat Mike like CRAP for the past couple of years or so, and that was not okay. Now I'm free of my skewed, self-imposed obligation to fix a dead and unhealthy friendship, and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off. :)
So my advice to all you people is this--if a friendship has obviously gone sour, don't go insane trying to fix it when it's obvious the other party doesn't want anything to do with you anymore. It's not worth the stress! There's a difference between trying to save a friendship worth saving and trying to hold together a basically one-sided toxic relationship. Don't wait for the other person to dump you first to realize that you don't need to stick around in this.
Don't stick around in a shitty relationship simply out of habit.
I deleted her off my MSN last week, and you know what? It was fucking cathartic.
I can't tell you how much less stressed I feel without the urge to fix a friendship that's been, sadly, long dead.

Anyway, sorry for the rant, but it needed to be said.
Besides, I don't want people to make the same mistake I did. I wanna look out for my awesome friends, dammit!
*hugs to all of ya*

All right. Back to my coffee and video games. Still one week of vacation left! YAY <333


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